When you are feeling triggered by someone, it’s most likely not because of their behavior, but because of your own unresolved emotional material. If you allow yourself to be with the difficult feelings, without projecting the blame, you might discover that you have memories of that particular emotion that reach far back into your childhood.
But there is no need to dig into the old stories, find someone to blame – that would be focusing on the external again. Just stay with all that’s going on internally, allow it to be witnessed without a judgement. Feel into the wholeness of your somatic experience. It will intensify and then pass, leaving you more aware of yourself.
Maybe at one point in your life you acquired the belief that you are unworthy of love or that there is something inherently wrong with you? Would you be willing to allow for the possibility that this belief is not true?
If this came up, then maybe it is time to let it go.
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